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How To Cope and Stay Positive When Bad Things Happen

Justin — Sun, 15 Jan 2012 21:24:18 +0000

“Can’t Rain All The Time” – The Crow

Bad Things In Life

No one ever said life is going to be easy. We all have experienced rough times in our lives, some others more than most. We all look for our answers when bad things happen and especially when it happens to good people. It can also be very easy to start the blame game or the “what if” game after bad things happen.

Let’s face it though, we can’t prevent or predict when bad things happen in our lives. Honestly, bad things are more likely going to happen to us in the future.

Life can be pretty complicated with mayhem and at times you may feel like you been knocked down so hard that you may never recover. There is hope though and although it may not seem like there, just remember it can’t rain all the time and there will be light eventually.

How We Cope To Bad Things In Life

The way we overcome bad things in order to keep pushing forward in life and not letting it get us in “Quicksand” is all dependent on the way we handle and react to these outcomes in life.

Get Out Of Quicksand - Quicksand is the effect where you seem you like you are in way over your hard and struggling to survive. Yes, it can be difficult when things add up or something so tremendous hit’s you so hard that you may feel like no matter what you do there is no way positive outcome. The thing with quicksand though is that if you stop for a minute struggling and just keep a cool and calm head, then eventually you can get out of the quicksand. The same applies to life, stop for a minute and get a clear head to prepare yourself in overcoming this temporary setback in life. The more you dwell on the negatives and the problem the more difficult it is to rise above.

Don’t Worry About The Things You Can’t Control – There is a prayer called the Serenity Prayer that Alcoholics Anonymous Meetings use most often that focuses on having the strength to focus on what they can control and the strength to accept things they can not change. There is no point stressing yourself out in worrying about the things you can’t control. Focus on what you can control and that is the present, not the past or impossible things for the future.

“Something I learned early in college (is) to not worry about what I can’t control…But what I can control is my attitude, my effort, my focus every single day and that’s what I’m trying to worry about.” – Tim Tebow

Learning Experience – The most effective thing we can do from rough events in our life is to learn from them. Whether you are spiritual or not, there is a driving force in this world that tells us that things happen for a reason. Seek out that reason and embrace it. If a difficult event happened in your family that has brought everyone together then maybe that reason is getting the opportunity to spend time with your family that you may never have done before. This is not to say to forget or ignore the problem but try to learn from this experience, it is the only way to get better in life.

Keep It Positive – You must stay head strong and always look for the positive in life even when it looks bleak in life. Keeping a positive outlook will help you push through this temporary setback in life. You are what you think. Watch funny movies and tv, go out and do something fun or spend quality time with friends. Do whatever you got to do to stay positive.

Keep Pushing Forward – Never go backwards, you must always keep pushing forward and overcoming obstacles in life.

You, me or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard you hit. It ‘s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done. – Rocky Balboa

Have Faith / Hope – Finally, the thing you must keep is faith and hope alive. This will pass, tomorrow the sun will rise again and the future will become better. You have to maintain a sense of hope or otherwise you will be holding on to something that will keep you complacent. Having hope will give you purpose to move forward.

Sometimes in life we experience bad things in order to become stronger. I will be strong.

” i’ve learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow. i’ve learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled christmas tree lights. i’ve learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you’ll miss them when they’re gone from your life. i’ve learned that making a “living” is not the same thing as making a “life.” i’ve learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance. i’ve learned that you shouldn’t go through life with a catcher’s mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw something back. i’ve learned that whenever i decide something with an open heart, i usually make the right decision. i’ve learned that even when i have pains, i don’t have to be one. i’ve learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone. people love a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back. i’ve learned that i still have a lot to learn. i’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” - Maya Angelo

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Ultimate Self Confidence Quotes Collection

Justin — Thu, 30 Jun 2011 01:38:40 +0000

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Self Confidence Quotes

Over the past few years I have came across some powerful Self Confidence quotes and decided to save them. I always believed in surrounding yourself with positive elements in life in order to keep pushing forward.

Many of people have always asked about the random generating quotes on my sidebar for this blog. If you refresh the page you will notice a new inspirational quote being displayed.

I have decided to share my list of Self Confidence quotes below and I hope you all enjoy!

#	Self Confidence Quotes	Author/ Source
1	“O Divine Providence, I ask not for more riches but more wisdom with which to make wiser use of the riches you gave me at birth,consisting in the power to control and direct my own mind to whatever ends I might desire”	Napoleon Hill
2	“Success is only failure turned upside down”	unknown
3	“If it ain’t fun, don’t do it”	Jack canfield
4	“Sometimes things must get worse before it gets better”	unknown
5	“Any idea, plan, or purpose may be placed in the mind through repetition of thought”	Napoleon Hill
6	“Create a definite plan for carrying out your desire and begin at once, whether you ready or not, to put this plan into action”	Napoleon Hill
7	“We are like magnets – like attract like. You become AND attract what you think”	The Secret
8	“Thought = creation. If these thoughts are attached to powerful emotions (good or bad) that speeds the creation”	The Secret
9	“Life can and should be phenomenal .. and it will be when you consciously apply the Law of Attraction”	The Secret
10	“All that we are is a result of what we have thought”	Buddha
11	“Play the picture in your mind – focus on the end result VISUALIZE!!! Rehearse your future VISUALIZE!!! See it, feel it! This is where action begins”	The Secret
12	“What this power is, I cannot say. All I know is that it exists”	Alexander Graham Bell
13	“Our job is not to worry about the “How”. The “How” will show up out of the commitment and belief in the “what””	The Secret
14	“Create a Vision Board .. pictures of what you want to attract .. every day look at it and get into the feeling state of already having acquired these wants”	The Secret
15	“Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life’s coming attractions.”	Albert Einstein
16	“Decide what you want .. believe you can have it, believe you deserve it, believe it’s possible for you”	The Secret
17	“Whether you think you can or think you can’t, either way you are right”	Henry Ford
18	“Whatever we think about and thank about we bring about.”	Dr John F Demartini
19	“You can start with nothing. And out of nothing, and out of no way, a way will be made”	Michael Beckwith
20	“Thoughts become things”	Mike Dooley
21	“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls”	Joseph Campbell
22	“You know, when everybody starts to live from their heart, and go for what they want, they don’t go for the same things. That’s the beauty of this. We don’t all want BMWs. We don’t all want the same person. We don’t all want the same experiences. We don’t all want the same clothing. We don’t all want ….. fill in the blank”	Joe Vitale
23	“Whatever it is you are feeling is a perfect reflection of what you are in the process of becoming”	Esther Hicks – Abraham
24	“I believe that you’re great, that there’s something magnificent about you. Regardless of what has happened to you in your life, regardless of how young or how old you think you might be, the moment you begin to think properly, this something that is within you, this power within you that’s greater than the world, it will begin to emerge. It will take over your life. It will feed you, it will clothe you, it will guide you, protect you, direct you, sustain your very existence. If you let it! Now that is what I know, for sure”	Michael Beckwith
25	“Don’t wait. The time will never be just right.”	Napoleon Hill
26	“Edison failed 10,000 times before he made the electric light. Do not be discouraged if you fail a few times.”	Napoleon Hill
27	“Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed on an equal or greater benefit.”	Napoleon Hill
28	“Blame and ‘whodunit’ questions solve nothing. They create fear, destroy creativity, and build walls.”	QBQ
29	“There’s not a chance we’ll reach our full potential until we stop blaming each other and start practicing personal accountability.”	QBQ
30	“Man, alone, has the power to transform his thoughts into physical reality; man, alone, can dream and make his dreams come true.”	Napoleon Hill
31	“100% of the shots you don’t take don’t go in.”	Wayne Gretzky
32	“Most great people have attained their greatest success just one step beyond their greatest failure.”	Napoleon Hill
33	“You can have everything in life that you want if you just give enough other people what they want.”	Zig Ziglar
34	“Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.”	Mark Twain
35	“Great works are performed, not by strength, but by perseverance.”	Samuel Johnson
36	“Until you start believing in yourself, you ain’t gonna have a life!”	Rocky Balboa
37	“A true man is not afraid to show himself, his inner self. He relies on who he is rather than what he is.”	Gideon
38	“It’s easy to be confident when you have control of the puck. It’s very difficult to keep that confidence when you have to take whatever strange bounces life throws your way. Don’t be careless, but don’t be too careful either. You cannot be afraid to lose. That’s how you gain the confidence – attack the game when the puck isn’t yours.”	The Mighty Ducks
39	“You got a dream… You gotta protect it. People can’t do somethin’ themselves, they wanna tell you you can’t do it. If you want somethin’, go get it. Period.”	The Pursuit of Happyness
40	“Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; begin it well and serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.”	Ralph Waldo Emerson
41	“The challenge is not to manage time, but to manage ourselves”	Steven Covey
42	“To think is easy. To act is hard. But the hardest thing in the world is to act in accordance with your thinking”	Goethe
43	“People can’t live with change if there’s not a changeless core inside them. The key to the ability to change is a changeless sense of who you are, what you are about and what you value”	Steven Covey
44	“If you’re proactive, you don’t have to wait for circumstances or other people to create perspective expanding experiences. You can consciously create your own.”	Steven Covey
45	“In addition to self-awareness, imagination and conscience, it is the fourth human endowment-independent will-that really makes effective self-management possible. It is the ability to make decisions and choices and to act in accordance with them. It is the ability to act rather than to be acted upon, to proactively carry out the program we have developed through the other three endowments. Empowerment comes from learning how to use this great endowment in the decisions we make every day.”	Steven Covey
46	“Ineffective people live day after day with unused potential. They experience synergy only in small, peripheral ways in their lives. But creative experiences can be produced regularly, consistently, almost daily in people’s lives. It requires enormous personal security and openness and a spirit of adventure”	Steven Covey
47	“Power is the faculty or capacity to act, the strength and potency to accomplish something. It is the vital energy to make choices and decisions. It also includes the capacity to overcome deeply embedded habits and to cultivate higher, more effective ones.”	Steven Covey
48	“Seek first to understand and then to be understood.”	Steven Covey
49	“Patience, persistence and perspiration make an unbeatable combination for success.”	Napoleon Hill
50	“Success in its highest and noblest form calls for peace of mind and enjoyment and happiness which come only to the man who has found the work that he likes best.”	Napoleon Hill
51	“A man should look for what is, and not for what he thinks should be”	Albert Einstein
52	“Always turn a negative situation into a positive situation”	Michael Jordan
53	“If you are given a chance to be a role model, I think you should always take it because you can influence a person’s life in a positive light, and that’s what I want to do. That’s what it’s all about.”	Tiger Woods
54	“A lot of times people look at the negative side of what they feel they can’t do. I always look on the positive side of what I can do”	Chuck Norris
55	“I think positive. I always think we’re going to score. Two minutes is a lot of time if you have timeouts and you’re throwing every down. You have to make the right decisions. I’ve always had great receivers, which helps. It’s not just me doing it.”	Dan Marino
56	“As you think, so shall you become.”	Bruce Lee
57	“If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else. It will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them.”	Bruce Lee
58	“To hell with circumstances; I create opportunities.”	Bruce Lee
59	“Don’t confuse fame with success. Madonna is one; Helen Keller is the other.”	Erma Bombeck
60	“I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed.”	Michael Jordan
61	“Success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome”	Booker T. Washington
62	“I like thinking big. If you’re going to be thinking anything, you might as well think big.”	Donald Trump
63	“You can always become better.”	Tiger Woods
64	“Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.”	Dalai Lama
65	“I find hope in the darkest of days, and focus in the brightest. I do not judge the universe.”	Dalai Lama
66	“It is very important to generate a good attitude, a good heart, as much as possible. From this, happiness in both the short term and the long term for both yourself and others will come.”	Dalai Lama
67	“Never leave that till tomorrow, he said, which you can do today.”	Benjamin Franklin
68	“Knowing is better than wondering, that waking is better than sleeping, and even the biggest failure, even the worst, beat the hell out of never trying.”	Dr. Meredith Grey
69	“Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours”	unknown
70	“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.”	Winston Churchill
71	“The positive thinker sees the invisible, feels the intangible, and achieves the impossible.”	unknown
72	“You’ve done it before and you can do it now. See the positive possibilities. Redirect the substantial energy of your frustration and turn it into positive, effective, unstoppable determination.”	Ralph Marston
73	“There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative.”	W. Clement Stone
74	“When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hold on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.”	Harriet Beecher Stowe
75	“It is important that you recognize your progress and take pride in your accomplishments. Share your achievements with others. Brag a little. The recognition and support of those around you is nurturing.”	Rosemarie Rossetti
76	“Keep true, never be ashamed of doing right; decide on what you think is right and stick to it.”	T.S. Eliot
77	“Persons are judged to be great because of the positive qualities they possess, not because of the absence of faults”	unknown
78	“If you think about disaster, you will get it. Brood about death and you hasten your demise. Think positively and masterfully, with confidence and faith, and life becomes more secure, more fraught with action, richer in achievement and experience.”	Swami Vivekananda
79	“It takes but one positive thought when given a chance to survive and thrive to overpower an entire army of negative thoughts.”	Robert H. Schuller
80	“When you put faith, hope and love together, you can raise positive kids in a negative world.”	Zig Ziglar
81	“People deal too much with the negative, with what is wrong…Why not try and see positive things, to just touch those things and make them bloom?”	Thich Nhat Hanh
82	“That’s my gift. I let that negativity roll off me like water off a duck’s back. If it’s not positive, I didn’t hear it. If you can overcome that, fights are easy.”	George Foreman
83	“In times of great stress or adversity, it’s always best to keep busy, to plow your anger and your energy into something positive.”	Lee Iacocca
84	“With vision there is no room to be frightened., No reason for intimidation. It’s time to march forward! Let’s be confident and positive!”	Charles R. Swindoll
85	“An individual’s self-concept is the core of his personality. It affects every aspect of human behavior: the ability to learn, the capacity to grow and change. A strong, positive self-image is the best possible preparation for success in life.”	Dr. Joyce Brothers
86	“Laughter is a powerful way to tap positive emotions”	Norman Cousins
87	“Be careful what you water your dreams with. Water them with worry and fear and you will produce weeds that choke the life from your dream. Water them with optimism and solutions and you will cultivate success. Always be on the lookout for ways to turn a problem into an opportunity for success. Always be on the lookout for ways to nurture your dream.”	Lao Tzu
88	“At the center of your being you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want.”	Lao Tzu
89	“The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.”	Lao Tzu
90	“To lead people, walk beside them… As for the best leaders, the people do not notice their existence. The next best, the people honor and praise. The next, the people fear; and the next, the people hate… When the best leader’s work is done the people say, ‘We did it ourselves!’”	Lao Tzu
91	“To realize that you do not understand is a virtue; Not to realize that you do not understand is a defect.”	Lao Tzu
92	“Knowing others is wisdom; Knowing the self is enlightenment; Mastering others requires force; Mastering the self needs strength”	Lao Tzu
93	“When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.”	Helen Keller
94	“Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.”	Helen Keller
95	“The only thing worse than being blind is having sight but no vision.”	Helen Keller
96	“No one has a right to consume happiness without producing it.”	Helen Keller
97	“Your success and happiness lies in you. Resolve to keep happy, and your joy and you shall form an invincible host against difficulties.”	Helen Keller
98	“What I am looking for is not “out there”, it is in me”	Helen Keller
99	“Never bend your head. Always hold it high. Look the world straight in the eye.”	Helen Keller
100	“Although the world is full of suffering, it is full also of the overcoming of it”	Helen Keller
101	Successful people have the habit of doing things failures don’t like to do. They don’t like doing them either, necessarily, but their disliking is subordinated to the strength of their purpose.	Albert E Gray
102	If you don’t have confidence in the diagnosis, you won’t have confidence in the prescription	Stephen R Covey
103	To keep a lamp burning we have to keep putting oil in it.	Mother Theresa
104	Sow a thought, and you reap an act. Sow an act, and you reap a habit. Sow a habit, and you reap a character. Sow a character, and you reap a destiny.	Charles Reade
105	Only after we can learn to forgive ourselves can we accept others as they are because we don’t feel threatened by anything about them which is better than us.	Stephen Covey
106	See every problem as an opportunity to exersize creative energy.	Stephen Covey
107	Your life is a result of your own decisions – not your conditions	Stephen Covey
108	“If you can dream it, you can do it.”	Walt Disney
109	“It’s kind of fun to do the impossible.”	Walt Disney
110	“A dream is just a dream. A goal is a dream with a plan and a deadline.”	Harvey MacKay
111	“If you wish others to believe in you, you must first convince them that you believe in them”	Harvey MacKay
112	“Find something you love to do and you’ll never have to work a day in your life”	Harvey MacKay
113	“When a person with money meets a person with experience, the person with the experience winds up with the money and the person with the money winds up with the experience”	Harvey MacKay
114	“The sale begins when the customer says yes.”	Harvey MacKay
115	“Failures don’t plan to fail; they fail to plan”	Harvey MacKay
116	“People begin to become successful the minute they decide to be”	Harvey MacKay
117	“It doesn’t matter how much milk you spill, as long as you don’t lose the cow.”	Texas Expression
118	“A boss creates fear, a leader confidence. A boss fixes blame, a leader corrects mistakes. A boss knows all, a leader asks questions. A boss makes work drudgery, a leader makes it interesting.”	Russell Ewing
119	“A leader takes people where they want to go. A great leader takes people where they don’t necessarily want to go, but ought to be.”	Rosalynn Carter
120	“If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.”	John Quincy Adams
121	“People buy into the leader before they buy into the vision.”	John C. Maxwell
122	“An effective leader knows the way, shows the way, and goes the way”	Unknown
123	“The first task of a leader is to keep hope alive.”	Joe Batten
124	“A good leader inspires people to have confidence in the leader, a great leader inspires people to have confidence in themselves”	Unknown
125	“Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”	Abraham Lincoln
126	“Self-Confidence is the number one asset that separates great athletes from the rest of the pack”	Patrick Cohn
127	“As is our confidence, so is our capacity”	Richard Bach
128	“Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent.”	Eleanor Roosevelt
129	“Whether you think you can or think you can’t – you are right.”	Henry Ford
130	“If you hear a voice within you say “you cannot paint,” then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced.”	Vincent Van Gogh
131	“Make the most of yourself, for that is all there is of you.”	Ralph Waldo Emerson
132	“Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.”	Peter T. Mcintyre
133	“Sex appeal is fifty percent what you’ve got and fifty percent what people think you’ve got.”	Sophia Loren
134	“Never dull your shine for somebody else.”	Tyra Banks
135	“A gold medal is a nice thing – but if you’re not enough without it, you’ll never be enough with it.”	Cool Runnings
136	“Be humble, for the worst thing in the world is of the same stuff as you; be confident, for the stars are of the same stuff as you. “	Nicholai Velimirovic
137	“You’re never as good as everyone tells you when you win, and you’re never as bad as they say when you lose.”	The Fighting Spirit
138	“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. “	Marianne Williamson
139	“Success is about implementing proven strategies that lead to long-lasting results.”	Ruben Gonzalez
140	“If you look at yourself and see what is right instead of what is wrong that is the true mark of a healthy individual”	Reebok
141	“It takes the same energy to think small as to think big”	Display of Power Book
142	“Keep your eyes on the stars and your feet on the ground”	Theodore Roosevelt
143	“It takes the same energy to think small as to think big”	Russell Simmons
144	“You have to believe in yourself when no one else does.”	Venus Williams
145	“The job of the CEO isn’t to check things off the agenda. Her job is to set the agenda, to figure out what’s next. Now that more and more of us are supposed to be CEO of our own lives and careers, it might be time to rethink who’s setting your agenda.”	Seth Godin
146	“You are the embodiment of the information you choose to accept and act upon. To change your circumstances you need to change your thinking and subsequent actions.”	Adlin Sinclair
147	“The harder I work, the luckier I get”	Donald Trump
148	“To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children…to leave the world a better place…to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.”	Ralph Waldo Emerson
149	“Do a little more each day than you think you possibly can.”	Lowell Thomas
150	“When you give up on your dreams, you give up on life”	Dale Green
151	“Much success can be attributed to inactivity. Most investors cannot resist the temptation to constantly buy and sell.”	Warren Buffett
152	“When it comes to the future, there are three kinds of people: those who make it happen, those who let it happen, and those who wonder what happened.”	John M. Richardson, Jr
153	If you aim at nothing, you will hit it everytime	Unknown
154	There are no shortcuts to any place worth going	Unknown
155	First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win	Mohandas Ghandi
156	Success isn’t permanent, and failure isn’t fatal	Mike Ditka
157	“The pessimist complains about the wind; the optimist expects it to change; the realist adjusts the sails.”	William Arthur Ward
158	“I tell people I’m too stupid to know what’s impossible. I have ridiculously large dreams, and half the time they come true!!	Debi Thomas
159	“Failure defeats losers, failure inspires winners”	Robert Kiyosak
160	This is the beginning of a new day. I have been given this day to use as I WILL. I can waste it… or use it for good. But what I do today is important, Because I am exchanging a day of my life for it! When tomorrow comes, this day will be gone forever, Leaving in its place something that I have traded for it. I want it to be gain, and not loss; Good and not evil; Success and not failure; In order that I shall not regret the price I have paid for it.	Unknown
161	“You can’t stop the waves but you can learn to surf.”	Zinn

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Do You Have True Blood? Keeping Cool Under Pressure

Justin — Wed, 15 Jun 2011 20:00:06 +0000

Keeping Cool Under Pressure

One of the biggest mistakes we can do is act on emotion or react without thinking. This can affect us both personally and in business.

Having a clear mind when making decisions is more productive and positive than reacting with emotion due to stress or other sensitive factors. We all had those moments where we feel guilty or regretful AFTER our impulsive decisions.

So how do we deal with stress and preventing actions based on emotion? There any many stress relievers out there that range from stress balls to massages but I want to focus on the root of these techniques and that is the Breathing and Clear Mind element.

I was reading a book by Russell Simmons called “Do You” and Russell talks about his various breathing techniques and Yoga classes.

Breathing Techniques

First we must learn to be at one with our Breathing. Breathing is the most natural form and is something we tend to forget that we do on a daily basis.

Whenever we act upon emotion or become stresses our heart rate rises and because we are not getting enough oxygen at that moment we become uncontrollable and stressed.

You know that saying take a few breaths through a paper bag and just breathe in and out?

We have to learn to just Breathe when under pressure and not let our emotions take control of us. When presented with a stressful situation remove yourself from the picture and just focus on breathing techniques. The simplest form is counting to 10 and breathing in rhythm with your count. You will be amazed how much your heart race will slow down and be able to think more clearly when making your next decision.

Yoga

The next form in breathing is like in the act of Yoga. Before you begin your day or even when you are about to go to bed, try removing yourself from all distractions and find a nice and quiet spot to practice your breathing technique and even try meditating. This habit will surely put you in a better mind set to start your day right or even end your day on a positive and zen fashion.

Do You Have True Blood? Keeping Cool Under Pressure is a post from: Self Confidence | Positive Thinking | Personal Development - Justified Lions

I Destroy My Enemies When I Make Them My Friends

Justin — Sun, 12 Jun 2011 19:56:42 +0000

“I Destroy My Enemies When I Make Them My Friends” – Abraham Lincoln

“Always forgive your enemies – nothing annoys them so much.” – Oscar Wilde

“Treat your friend as if he will one day be your enemy, and your enemy as if he will one day be your friend”

“Keep your friends close, and your enemies closer.” – Michael Corleone

In Business or in Personal, Enemies are the forces we are sought to stay away from and become bitter towards.

Why do we feel we must ignore our enemies and do everything we can to stay away from them? What is a true “Enemy?

In Business an “Enemy” could be the competition, they may be good people but because they are affecting our pockets of success they are considered enemies.

Personal Life an “Enemy” are people we don’t trust or affected us emotionally to become hatred towards or bitter.

So in both instances, enemies are our rivals or people who we do not want to be associated with because of an act or emotion delivered upon us. The complete opposite of an enemy is a “Friend” right? Why can’t both enemies and friends be intertwined?

What do we have to lose?

I personally use to be stubborn and bitter towards all my enemies in both business and personally then I found out that I am feeding negative emotions just like when I feed towards people who are haters or jealous of me. Two wrongs don’t make a right.

It’s like the classic story in War where there may be 5 nations under one rule where the Tyrant controls all 5 nations but is completely vicious and corrupt. Instead of the 5 nations struggling fighting with each other, the nations should join forces towards one common goal is relinquishing power from the evil tyrant.

So what do we have to gain from keeping your enemies close by or putting up with their presence?

Insight / Preparation – You will become the chess master and know every single move of your enemies while preparing yourself for your own success.
Opportunities – You will let your enemy focus elsewhere giving you the opportunity to expand or achieve the results you want with less resistance.
Growth/Zen – Personally you will grow as a person and in business due to letting your heart and mind become free of this negative emotion. It takes a lot more time and energy to focus on hatred and resentment than it is to let go and move to better yourself and your business.

Why friends can be more dangerous than enemies

You know the old saying that your loved ones and friends can hurt you the most than any other enemy in the world can? We get blindsided when our loved ones or friends back-stab or endanger us. In Robert Greene’s 48 laws of power he explains why Friends can be worse than Enemies.

Never put too Much Trust in Friends, Learn how to use Enemies

“Be wary of friends-they will betray you more quickly, for they are easily aroused to envy. They also become spoiled and tyrannical. But hire a former enemy and he will be more loyal than a friend, because he has more to prove. In fact, you have more to fear from friends than from enemies. If you have no enemies, find a way to make them.”
So let’s not focus on the negatives and let’s crush our enemies by making them our friends, what do you think?

I Destroy My Enemies When I Make Them My Friends is a post from: Self Confidence | Positive Thinking | Personal Development - Justified Lions

Holy Moly, Me-Oh-My, You’re the apple of my eye

Justin — Sun, 23 Jan 2011 06:55:10 +0000

Home, Let me come Home
Home is Whenever I’m with you
Home, yes I am Home
Home is wherever I’m with you

Personal Inspiration

I remember watching a video just after the new year called “Home – Edward Sharpe and The Magnetic Zeros Acoustic Cover (Jorge & Alexa Narvaez)” The video is about a Father & Daughter doing a duet cover.

At first the video only had a few thousand views and now at the time of writing this post the video has over 4 million views. Why is this video such a success you ask? Besides the fact of going viral going on the Ryan Seacrest and Ellen show, the video shows a purity and an awesome bond between the Father and Daughter which is adorable. At one point she looks up to her Dad with puppy dog eyes and asks “One day im gonna whistle?”

In an interview the Father Jorge talks about family time with music. His personal inspiration in doing the music video is his two loves, music and his Daughter.

Core Values

In business, often time we forget that the visionary goal is not monetary or power but should come from the heart of your core value. Your core values are usually your first reason and motivation to succeed.

Is it to provide and have a better life for your family?

Is it to provide a better life for yourself even?

Once the momentum gets going, don’t ever lose sight of why you are building your empire in the first place. No matter where in the process of trying to be successful, you always have your core value to home to.

My Core Value

This video was very touching because my core value is of course my family and it just reminds me of my Daughter and I. Below is a picture of Daddy and Princess. Her name is Taryn and she is 7 years old.

Holy Moly, Me-Oh-My, You’re the apple of my eye is a post from: Self Confidence | Positive Thinking | Personal Development - Justified Lions

Why I admire Miley Cyrus / Hannah Montana Inspirational Positive Attitude

Justin — Wed, 07 Jul 2010 12:07:35 +0000

Never heard of her, love her or hate her, the person is Miley Cyrus aka Hannah Montana. Think what you will of her but I sure do admire her Positive role model mojo in the songs she sings.

Now you maybe asking what am I doing listening to her songs? Well thats easy, I have a lovely 6 year old daughter named Taryn and she absolutely loves Miley Cyrus.

Compared to other past teen pop singers, Miley Cyrus does portray the right kind of Role Model influence that I would want my Daughter to be engaged in, especially with her songs if anything else.

Here are a few songs that portray a powerful message:

Miley Cyrus – The Climb

The struggles I’m facing

The chances I’m taking

Sometimes might knock me down

But no, I’m not breaking

I may not know it

But these are the moments that

I’m gonna remember most, yeah

Just gotta keep going

This hit song does have some deep meaning behind these lyrics. This is a great example of what I would want my Daughter to take away from this song and that is to keep moving on even if life brings you down the climb to the top will be worth it. As cutesy as the song gets portrayed on radio and tv, the real importance is behind the words which I found are awesome.

Hannah Montana – Nobody’s Perfect

Nobody’s perfect

I gotta work it

Again and again

‘Til I get it right

Nobody’s perfect

You live and you learn it

And if I mess it up sometimes

Nobody’s perfect

This song showcases that even though Miley is a Rockstar, that she isn’t perfect and she makes mistakes. She also just doesn’t give up and keeps trying until she gets it right. It’s the age old saying of learning from your failures and the only way to succeed in life is to learn from them. Great message here I think.

Hannah Montana – Life’s What You Make It

Don’t let no small frustration

Ever bring you down

No no no no

Just take a situation

And turn it all around

With a new attitude everything can change

Make it how you want it to be

Stayin’ mad, why do that?

Give yourself a break

Laugh about it and you’ll see

Again in this song’s message one of the elements is to keep on pushing on in life. The real meaning here can be compared to “The Secret” where you can control your life based on your attitude and positive thinking. Miley clearly states in this song that life is how you make it so don’t stay frustrated or down, stay positive and smile to change your attitude. I love this message!!

With just these few song excerpts, you can clearly see that Miley Cyrus does have positive messages in her songs and that is why I don’t mind if my Daughter looks up to Miley as a Role Model. I think all ages and genders can learn and enjoy Miley’s Song Lyrics.

Why I admire Miley Cyrus / Hannah Montana Inspirational Positive Attitude is a post from: Self Confidence | Positive Thinking | Personal Development - Justified Lions

Keep Asking Yourself Is What I Am Doing Now Productive?

Justin — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 22:32:49 +0000

Staying organized and focusing on tasks at hand can be very tough. I know for me that is one of the things I struggle with often. Things can get really messy if you have tasks that are not arranged by high priority to low or even worse no tasks at all.

Shooting from the hip is an old Cowboy saying that symbolizes the Wild West, Shoot first ask questions later.

At work this may seem true, we are all rushing to finish the day regardless of how sloppy we get the job done. Of course our clients or employers may not like our tactic but it seems like just like in life, we worry about rushing to get things done without slowing down and making sure we do it the right way with no lazy short cuts.

I just recently moved to the DC Metro area from Virginia Beach. Virginia Beach is such a laid back Podunk town while DC is a fast paced business oriented city. It seems like everyone in this area has to drive 80 miles just to reach their destination everyday even if its less than 2 miles away. Back in Virginia Beach, I see people “cruising” all the time just enjoying the ride, in DC I don’t think I have yet to see 1 person just “cruise” otherwise they will get yelled at for going to slow.

So the point is sometimes you have to take a step back and re-evaluate things. Stop worrying about reaching your destination so quickly, take a step back and re-focus espeically if you want to improve or change your life or business.

Effective Activities and Behavior

In Business or in Life there are times when we do things redundantly or ineffectively that doesn’t make sense in doing. For Business for example, there are many activities that are more detrimental to our success than it is to make money. Many people waste time doing useless tasks and activities that are not helping the overall goal of making money.

As a Loan Officer, I was always caught up in doing paperwork during the day that was very time consuming and left me little time to effectively prospect. Prospecting is how I get business and if I don’t get any business then I don’t make any money. I had to re-arrange my priorities and spent less time doing paperwork at work and brought most of the work load home or delegated to an assistant.

The same time consuming activities can also apply in life. My brother was an avid poker player at the local bars where they would hold tournaments almost every couple days. In the past his Girlfriend would always get mad at him because he would spend too much time at the bars and never enough time with her. This is an obvious poor priority management. The solution to this problem is that he could make work out a deal by going once or twice a month depending on how comfortable his Girlfriend would be and to shift over some of his poker playing maybe at the house or on computer. Whatever the solution was going to be the point is to re-prioritize and ask what will it take to make it work.

A few key points to remember when re-arranging your priorities to work towards your goal or end result.

Is this productive?

1.) Ask Yourself is this productive? Keep asking yourself this very important question over and over through out the day. I recently came across a survey with the top producers in a sales industry and almost every single one of them had this strategy down as one of the tips to being a successful top producer. Get your priorities is straight, if its something not making you money or helping you out with your business in the long run, then change up your game.

2.) Write down your priorites – I have always been a big promoter of this strategy. Most people in this world are visual thinkers and sometimes in order to get organized we need to lay our objectives and priorities down. Start with the most important priority and work your way down to the least important. This work wonders.

3.) Change it – They say a person is truly crazy if they keep doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results. If things are not working the way you want it to be, don’t just wait for change, go out and make things happen. Go out and change your habits or priorities in to making things a success. You control your own destiny is what I always say.

Keep Asking Yourself Is What I Am Doing Now Productive? is a post from: Self Confidence | Positive Thinking | Personal Development - Justified Lions